resistance – Keith and Barbara's Porch Blog

A blog about change, healing, and porch fun.

***Fourth Dimension [also called 3rd Density] – The Old-World

A world of Belief

• The World of FUD [Fear, Uncertainty, and Doubt]
• I must figure it all out, I must be right
• The appropriate choices are dis-ease, victim, guilt, lack, resistance, not good enough, I trust that I can’t trust, judgment, blame of self or others, not loving self… as rational mind rules
• If you are not in control, you are being controlled
• You do self-importance or entitlement… or you give up who you are for what others seem to want you to be
• Prove it, Show your work… or it isn’t real
• I can’t go there if I don’t rationally understand it first
• If I can’t see it in the world the way I want to see it, it isn’t real, and so I can’t change, be different, or have anything more, until it/they change outside first [victim consciousness]
• Something outside will fill me and then I will be ok… love, success, money, power… whatever
• Hard bus – drama, trauma, pain, struggle, and suffering take my time and energy
• Sex is ‘peak orgasm’, stimulation and release, clitoral orgasm, the Big ‘O’

***Fifth Dimension [also called 4th Density] – The New-World

A world of Knowing

• With increasingly less FUD, Things are just known
• Consistently choosing love and trust over fear and lack
• With more awareness / consciousness you notice when you are being presented with the bait of the drama scripts you know so well… and choose not to take the bait and get hooked into another loop. If you have gotten into a drama loop, you simply exit when you notice you are in the old story
• Access to 5d: The Void, Nothingness, Spacious Presence – You instantly have any knowing, understanding, healing vibration or frequency, and increasingly any manifestation you want, for self or others
• Life becomes an amazing and rich adventure… work becomes play… the universe gives you more than you can imagine, again and again and again… A.bun.dance
• Prosperity on all levels… loving relationships, health, wealth, and creativity
They each align in their own time as you love more of yourself and deal with your issues
• Reality becomes feedback… a holographic projection from within… for which you take total responsibility… and your life moves from material to magical to miraculous
• Connection, Flow… problems resolve themselves without fixing, without effort,
The life of your dreams becomes your reality. Business management becomes flow
• Without resistance, little pain… drama fades away
• Gratitude rules… you love everything… miracles are normal… fun and adventure roll
• Trust and surrender is the way, everyone has their own truth, no need to be right
• Unconditional love, without attachment to outcome, feels like you don’t care… but you care far more
• You perceive that other levels of your own being are running this show… and you cooperate… “The lifetime in which your higher self becomes real, is the lifetime you go home” -Lazaris
• Sex moves into ‘valley orgasm’ [vaginal and cervical]; usually later, Higher Energies, and states of union, become part of lovemaking

Many experience some areas of their life easily shift into 5d while other areas are very resistant and hang-on to the old-world, often with a temper tantrum about it all.

As you can see, we are all a mix of the above. Note: on the web you can find many different explanations of 3-4-5 dimensional realities… later, dear rational mind.

Sooner or later you will find compassionate loving acceptance and everything will change. Or you will find the core belief systems, and let them go. I did, many have… you will, too. Until then you will notice that as the energies continue up, your magic, gifts and fun get easier and easier to manifest… and your pain-body dramas get bigger, more frequent, and more painful.

Many experience some areas of their life easily shift into 5d while other areas are very resistant and hang-on to the old-world, often with a temper tantrum about it all. So many now have that tantrum in some area of their life… hanging on… blaming others, reality, or themselves… drowning in resistance, hopelessness, or futility about their relationships, health, wealth, or creativity… whatever… with one repeat performance drama after another because a loving universe won’t quit on you. Call it a shamanic initiation if you will… many do. “The difficulties are necessary, until you realize they aren’t.” -Eckhart Tolle. Sooner or later you will find compassionate loving acceptance and everything will change. Or you will find the core belief systems, and let them go. I did, many have… you will, too. Until then you will notice that as the energies continue up, your magic, gifts and fun get easier and easier to manifest… and your pain-body dramas get bigger, more frequent, and more painful.

My teachers told me, “We can’t tell you how you will get there, but we can tell you that you will”. You are in this process now… trust… this journey is going to give you everything you want to know about healing, compassion, trust, surrender, and love… and as you get what you went there for, it will change… and not until then… that is how important you are. Your rational mind will be the last part of you to get it… as it does, you will become a teacher. Welcome to the new-world!

The way is always to spend more of your time in the present [rather than past or future], choosing love and light radiant energies. Go to Glow or any similar state of being.

When you can, hang out in celebration [a mix of love, joy, and gratitude] … for no reason at all. Bless whatever you are excited about… people you love, events, ideas, projects, businesses… with this overflowing effortless radiance of who you really are. What you put out is what you get back – this basic rule of the universe becomes your guide. Return to overflowing often whenever you think of it. This raises your vibration and the changes happen… everything needed is brought to you by Higher Self, and if you accept whatever the universe is already bringing as the gift it truly is, it can do its work… you can take your journey with it… and level up a step… and with that work done, those dramas will quit being served.

If you make anything in your life wrong, inside or out, and say you don’t want it, the part of you that is stronger and does want it will remain hidden by denial and you will have repeat performances of your themes, often with a different cast of characters, playing the other end of your script. Sooner or later you will find self-loving acceptance. And if you are not ready to accept this just-too-simple idea… know you will be. Or… very very popular… if you are still stuck… that is proof that you are not good enough, something is wrong with you, and aren’t able to do it right. Love that proof!

Most folks I see here ‘on the porch’ experience partial access to 5d reality… The Void for Buddhists, No.thing.ness for Hindus, the Spacious Present for many contemporary teachers. Fully living here… the shamans call it ‘clarity’… Zen calls it ‘sitting on top of the hundred-foot pole’ – you see and know everything – ‘conditional enlightenment’… there is still you and the pole so it’s not ‘full enlightenment’. From this vast empty place, you have just the knowing… just the words… just the access to energies and healing vibrations… you need in the moment you need them. I see increasingly more folks that exist here. Trust builds… you trust that if you don’t know something, you don’t need to know it. And your interactions with the world and others become increasingly magical, beautiful, and loving… healing in the true sense. Relax… have fun… play… follow your excitement… all of us are already there… just dropping the pretending we are not.

Healing is access, and not a doing… access to the frequencies, vibrations, and energies that assist folks to change what they are choosing, so their life changes. Doing is the old-world… which is fine, and what many need… but that is what it is.

I see, especially here in San Marcos, Lake Atitlan, Guatemala, that it is no longer enough to be a competent well-trained and experienced therapist, whatever your modality. Magical catalytic change energies have to flow or one becomes increasingly less competitive with all the ‘magic’ ones. Healing is access, and not a doing… access to the frequencies, vibrations, and energies that assist folks to change what they are choosing, so their life changes. Doing is the old-world… which is fine, and what many need… but that is what it is.

Here on the porch, we do ‘psychic surgery’ all the time… where ‘pain body’, density, belief systems, and fear… even diseases… are popped out and can be examined in front of you, at a distance, held in your hands, for what they are. Then put it back inside to better know what you are doing with yourself. Even more comes out the next time and there is an opportunity to own the choices you have been making and change them if you want. That’s empowering fun. Welcome to the new world. Psychic Surgery?… we see a few folks that are too resistant, but almost everyone on the porch these days already knows how to do it, and do it well. [We do so much of this we should put up a video… anyone want to make one for us? We have the equipment… you need the fun, computer, and software.]

For over 100 years, nothing has been better statistically and scientifically proven than parapsychology… rigorously and repeatedly super double blind validated beyond any doubt whatsoever… but science doesn’t accept it as real [it is called pseudoscience] and it is almost forgotten. Look it up: [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parapsychology]. I am wondering if Joe Dispenza and Bruce Lipton are trying to reinvent-the-wheel by doing the same thing with an understanding of personal quantum reality change… trying to get science to accept their obvious 5d experience and knowing, in a 3d paradigm.

Trying to prove the intangible with data that makes sense. Trying to convince someone who is anchored in 3d to see the world from a 5d perspective is difficult until that person is aligned energetically to a frequency in which 5d perspectives seem obvious, rather than fantasy. I know people trying to convince themselves of the possibility of quantum change… to find the old-world proof before 3d FUD [Fear, Uncertainty, Doubt] overwhelms them depressively thru the unrelenting hopelessness and futility of being stuck, stuck, stuck. We Love you!… as you insist that past experience and your beliefs determine what is real. Anyway, anyone know if Dispenza and Lipton have looked at the history of Parapsychology and Science over the last century+ and related it to what they are trying to do?

Maybe it will be different this time. After all, a recent Australian academic and experimental peer reviewed Quantum Physics research paper concluded that the particle in the experiment chose its past from its future. No shit, in a physics journal. My guides in the 80’s taught us how to change the past so we had a different present… that is inner-child work. Comments?

News Flash: As of about 3 weeks ago, Google has a new set of algorithms that they are applying to Search and YouTube to take the war against alternative thought to another level. If you post or have a channel having anything to do with alternative economics [Gold, Silver, Peter Schiff, Bitcoin and other cryptos, economic conspiracy, bad language about banks] or categories like the Hillary Clinton machine, pizza gate, pedophilia… you will be categorized as ‘fake news’ by their algorithms. Such alternative sites like these have seen their viewership stats go down about 30%, and all of them in simultaneous synchronized steps… over 2 weeks… as the new algorithms have taken effect… so one way they support their work is reduced by an equivalent percentage.

[We are not talking the Corey Goode and David Icke fear-based stuff that most folks clearly understand as lies. May I offend a few of my readers here?] Would you like a post on the scary things that visit you…? Try this before the Bashar folks take it down:

It will help you with your fears… FEAR = False Evidence Appearing Real.

Will this Google algorithm stuff extend to alternative spirituality… your interest… in the next years? Here we go. BTW, if you don’t know about Pizza Gate, which is expected by some channels to blow things apart on USA government and corporate levels in the coming year or so, you might check YouTube for an Aussie 60-Minutes 3-part series where they take the lid off the pedophilia ring among Lords and House biggies in England. It is all coming out. Blessings from the Lake

Probabilities, Probabilities [as they are now]… the Euro has reached its peak relative to the US Dollar. The big Euro drop will come in November. The dollar will continue up, way up, well into next year [as world currencies flow into the ‘safety’ of the dollar and US stock market]… until that increase raises interest rates and brings the whole house down. Too early to call the GBP [if they go with NAFTA and dump the EU, it will be better]. Get into Cryptos, but be aware that at a certain point, governments may clamp down.

For those who want more info on the 3-4-5d realities: https://www.secretenergy.com/…/3rd-4th-5th-dimension-reali…/ Below is copied from this page by Nikki Sapp… nice description… and there are many others:

“Third Dimensional Reality – The Physical Realm

“Birds born in a cage think flying is an illness.” ~ Alejandro Jodorowski

In the third dimension you see yourself as a separate entity in comparison to other people and the universe. You are still rooted in the physical world, and feel appropriate to judge people based on the color of their skin, age, gender, financial status etc. I am a person, the thinker of these thoughts, and these thoughts are my thoughts. I seek happiness outside of myself. Things like money, material possessions, relationships, and physical attributes seem to be the key to my fulfillment. I must compete with others in order to ‘make it’ so I can get my share of abundance. Life is characterized by polar opposites. There are good decisions and bad decisions, good thoughts and bad thoughts, good people and bad people, for example. The labels I have for myself define who I am as a person. Words like parent, wife, son, my job title, home-owner, etc. are how I identify myself in comparison to others.

Fourth Dimensional Reality – The Hallway into the Fifth Dimension, Consciousness begins to Awaken

“A shift in perspective makes the particles in your universe dance to new possibilities.” ~ Annie Kagan

As the light of consciousness begins to awaken within, your belief system of third dimensional reality seems absurd. You may even become angry or resentful of the society that implanted these belief systems. In fourth dimension, comparison and judgment still exist however with more ‘spiritual’ themes. For example, you may describe yourself as “awake” while judging those you feel are “asleep.” The attention has shifted from pursuits in the material world to the pursuit of knowledge and understanding. I am *#&#* angry because I have been lied to. I must warn and tell others about the Illuminati, government, reptilians, chemtrails, etc… Since on some level I believe that I am my mind, I am weary of things like mind control or subliminal messages. I may take on a spiritually themed ego structure. In this case, I may judge those who still eat meat, watch the news, drive a car, etc.. More knowledge and better understandings seem to be the key to my fulfillment. Ego is my ultimate enemy and therefore my ‘goal’ is to get rid of it.

Fifth Dimensional Reality – Unity Consciousness

The All is the One, and the One is the All as consciousness begins to awaken even further, the ego drops and judgments begin to fade away. You realize that the darkness of the world is a direct reflection of the shadow that still exists inside of you. You no longer try to change the world, but rather begin to heal yourself.

The love that grows within begins to translate into compassion and understanding for the external world. Love is the only weapon that truly holds power. I am no longer attached to my labels, but see myself as an ever-changing field of consciousness. I ultimately hold all the power to ‘create’ my perception of reality, nothing is inherently ‘good’ or ‘bad’. Nothing has power over me or my reality unless I have on some level agreed to it. Judgment now has become discretion. Although I no longer judge people from a moral standpoint, I use discretion in what I spend my time and energy on. I am beginning to see that “god”, “the universe,” or “source” lies within. As the master inside of me begins to awaken I realize I have held the power all along. The fear of mind control and manipulation drops away.” -By Nikki Sapp

We have a new meditation up on Sound Cloud… another talk, phone recorded at a ceremony… on manifestation. And I sure do recommend the one called Empath Training if you are a sensitive sponge for the density of others, groups, or the world. https://soundcloud.com/user13991090 Mp3 Trainings and meditations

We are working on our new cacao website and shipping… soon… definitely going to have a brown Xmas.

My sweetheart sez… you know you are free when you can freely fart in the middle of a big cacao ceremony.

Blessings on your fine dream… keith and barbara

A note to the different ones…

Those who, as they planned, didn’t fully cave-in to the consensus reality conditioning, remain as a threatening reminder to those who did. It isn’t you, it is what you represent.

There are very large numbers of people, especially the young, who are, in effect, a different species. That’s right, some channeled beings do say “different species”… the inner difference is that great. The young ones, and more, are not buying the lie. The split leads some to satanic sites, some to cutting, some to drugs – to deal with it all. You are going to have Lots of company! Somebody had to break trail. Those of us who made the maps in the 1980’s and 1990’s… we thank you. My friend Angela Economakis and her Luminary Academy are on the leading edge of working with the 18 yr old and younger wizards-to-be.

My teachers told us this story. An analogy that compares the process we are now in to the exploration of the western United States by the European settlers. First, there were the explorers that walked and went on horseback into the Rocky Mountains… they found the passes and met the natives. As first were Tibetans, Mayans, shamans… ancient cultures all over the world. The 1st wave of settlers went in covered wooden wagons drawn by oxen over road-less landscapes. This was my group, in the ‘80’s and 90’s. It was a long hard journey and it hurt to watch a lot of us not make it. Our job was to build railroads for the 2nd wave, who would have steam locomotives… enjoy your trains and hotels! Those of you in the 2nd wave are building the airports, because the 3rd wave will have jumbo jets. Early airports are being completed, and 3rd wavers are realizing that they already know how to fly.

If the developing wizard identifies with the rejection and judgment… and takes it personally… as about them rather than about the one fearfully judging… there will be pain. Do know that the pain is a message intended to lead you to find the beliefs that are out of alignment with who you really are.

Those who, as they planned, didn’t fully cave-in to the consensus reality conditioning, remain as a threatening reminder to those who did. It isn’t you, it is what you represent. As a forerunner [some choose to go first]… as you recognize that in some way you didn’t buy all the collective insanity… and won’t… you can expect those who did to consider you insane – a threat – as their own insanity will be projected onto any who don’t go along with it… what else can they do to protect themselves?

It isn’t you, it is what you represent.

If the developing wizard identifies with the rejection and judgment… and takes it personally… as about them rather than about the one fearfully judging… there will be pain. Do know that the pain is a message intended to lead you to find the beliefs that are out of alignment with who you really are.

…And that’s the problem, as the voice of fear will tell you that if you step even further away from the consensus insanity by cleaning up your inner reality to make room for your magic, then, guaranteed, all you will have is more pain, more abandonment, fewer friends. If you take it personally, you will have that pain. If instead you let them go, knowing it is not about you, it is not their time, and they have the right to their own truth and timing… you will make room for others who see you for who you are.

You will lose friends. Love yourself and allow that.

I understand that we are going there anyway… as that is the choice we all made before birth… and it is our choice now to cooperate with ourselves and have an adventure, or fight it and have an increasing nightmare… as the magic we came here to be, pushes harder from within.

As the energies continue up, month by month for years more, everything within will expand. Your creativity, gifts, and magic will get easier and easier to manifest… and your dramas will get bigger, more frequent, and more painful. The good gets gooder and the bad gets badder. Everything is polarizing. The sooner you deal with your stuff, the sooner you will be in a place to help others as the planetary emotional detox accelerates.

“Those who resist the release of the old will have increasing pain, chaos, violence, and insanity.” -Eckhart Tolle

Imagine what is coming… I know folks who have had debilitating physical pain where the scanners and doctors can find absolutely nothing wrong. Maybe the fear of opening your healing magic will keep you only peeking out of the consensus box until people you love are in such nightmares.

“In the future, the doctors will be sending people to you.” -so say numerous enlightened beings.

Relax, have fun, learn that you can use what you don’t like as a gift to take you deeper. It takes time, effort, and patience to love those parts of you, inside and out, that you were taught to judge and reject. I know many who have already done enough inner clean-up to be in an absurdly magical reality where the universe just can’t stop bringing things and events better than what could be imagined… again and again and again. If that fun is not your reality, know that you are close, and your shit is working overtime to get you there.

«Most people do not see their beliefs, Instead, their beliefs tell them what they see. This is the simple difference between clarity and confusion.» Matt Kahn

“Reality is feedback.” -so many

“Reality conforms to your description of it.” -Carlos Castaneda quoting Don Juan

“Most people do not see their beliefs, Instead, their beliefs tell them what they see. This is the simple difference between clarity and confusion.” -Matt Kahn

“You don’t get what you want, you get what you are… you get what you are a vibrational match for.” -Wayne Dyer + Abraham-Hicks

«Your circumstances are only a reflection of the energies that you are projecting onto the others. When you shift your energies, the circumstances shift accordingly. It cannot be otherwise.» -A Journey to Oneness through Rasha

“You can’t change what you see until you learn from what you see.” -Bentinho Massaro

I tell a story where I bury a treasure somewhere in town… and hand you a shovel. You might walk around for a while looking for a fresh pile of dirt, but basically it would be rather hopeless. But if I put a tall pole right there with a big flag and flashing lights and loud horns… it would be lots easier to find that treasure. In the vast landscape of your consciousness, your symptoms… what you have been taught is wrong and are trying to fix in you or with your reality… are the flags telling you right where to dig for the healing treasure. They are the gifts you gave yourself to make things easier. Use them, because if you don’t, those other dimensions of you that love you so much will help your unopened gifts get louder.

Sooner or later the fear of what happens if you don’t unwrap your gifts gets bigger than the fear of unwrapping them… and you will… many will. So compassionately allow everyone to have their choice of ugly dramas as a planet full of people goes through this.

«You have volunteered to experience the full gamut of possibility in one physical lifetime, so that you might cull the experience of sacred knowingness from the complexity of the dramas of physical incarnation.» -Oneness through Rasha

“If you like how you feel, continue… if you don’t, take a nap.” –Abraham-Hicks

Blessings from Keith and Barbara, and the Lake.

A lil update…

Consider cooperating with your process… or judge it and have a resistance festival on the hard bus.

As some look at it, we are in the 3rd of 4 tsunamis of light to wash over this reality this year. This month of July, the ocean is going out… exposing all sorts of deeper fears and issues. Through August, the wave of light will be coming in… ride it or believe you will drown, whatever, it will be just fine. What is happening this month is to prepare room inside to fill with more love, opening, and shifting as the wave arrives. Those who cooperate will find themselves released from some old patterns and with new abilities opened into September. Just in time to have the center that allows others to have their chosen dramas, without you taking it personally or going into fear because of it… as we have increasing chaos in the world these next months [although I feel most of the economic crazy will be next year]. Consider cooperating with your process… or judge it and have a resistance festival on the hard bus.

One of the Tribe sent this, and I thought I would quote it and share…

They wrote: “A funny thing happened, I started having the same reaction to cacao that I’ve had for years to sugar, namely, weakness, tiredness, poor concentration, crankiness, so I stopped drinking it. Does it have natural sugar in it?”

Our reply: Nope, that’s not the problem. As is explained in depth on our website, what you need to ‘come up’ from your inner reality is being facilitated by the cacao… it gets judged cause you don’t like it, don’t want it, and have not yet learned to trust and follow the messages from Higher Self called symptoms… the symptoms you listed above are metaphors designed to lead you deeper. No problem, it will get louder and then either you will blame something else… suppress it in some other way… or go deeper. Have fun. This will also help: Ascension Symptons.

The cranky is the key, and the tired is the way you stay safe from going deeper into what it is really about… or is the way you slow yourself down so you are more likely to go within… and into what you must be ready for, or it wouldn’t be here… as it all is being organized by other levels of your own being. blessings

Notes from the flow via keith and barbara

Exhaustion is the result of resisting joy/excitement/desire

“went to an introductory lecture on Bioresonance for one of those frequency zapper thingies….. I forgot what being in a room of normal (desperately seeking fixing) people was like.” -PM

«cacao ceremonies of all descriptions in Berlin almost every week these days» -PM

“By the second half of 2016 you will have embraced the inevitability of magical occurrences and surprising successes entering your life at an almost alarming rate.” –Bentinho Massaro

“You are in the process of discovering that you are the reality that you previously thought you existed in… Fourth density reality will allow you to experience your reality as a part of you.” –Bashar

“Exhaustion is the result of resisting joy/excitement/desire” -?

«You don’t get what you want, you get what you are.» –Dr. Wayne Dyer

“Everything is meaningless – Nothing ever has any set-in meaning. Everything is neutral until you assign it a meaning… …so take a moment to pause and not automatically assign negative connotation, negative meaning to whatever circumstances unfolding before you, know that it is positive, behave toward it positively, respond creatively, intuitively, inspirationally, and by giving it that energy, anything that is not part of that vibration will drop away more easily, and all that remains will be the thing that you will want to do anything, in the way that is correct for you to do it» ~ Bashar

“When you are born in a world you don’t fit in; it’s because you were born to help create a new one.” –Dolores Cannon

«The present actually changes the past.» -Bashar

«Wisdom does not flow out of the Past but flows from the Future.» — Lazaris

“The steps of getting there are the qualities of being there.” –Lazaris

Mantra of the day: “Dearest inner child, please don’t ever change, since it is I who is meant to change the way I view you – no matter how you think, act, choose or behave. Come as you are. Be as you wish. You are safe to be the gift of uniqueness the world is ready to receive. I love you.” –Matt Kahn

The Spititual Relationship 1

[Note: I sent this page to a few people for suggestions before i published it. One of them was a great friend, my Ex, who doesn’t relate to my ‘information dense’ writing style where one sentence may need to be contemplated for a bit because of all it contains. She offered a rewrite, anonymously. I’m delighted, you will find it immediately after.]

You didn’t grow up with a map to the spiritual relationship… the only kind of relationship you can have in today’s energies of awakening. Here is that map.

Right now you are in a spiritual relationship with lovers, business partners, friends, family, even teachers… also truly with your health, wealth, and creative expression. You are in the same sort of relationship with a garden, a project, a busness… whatever. The Spiritual Relationship is a catchy word for life. Bet if i called it Life you wouldn’t be reading this…

If you know… that if it is really love, it won’t hurt… oops.

The principle purpose of the spiritual relationship – whether with your health, your sweetheart, or your business – is to bring to the surface what you (or all of you in something like a business) have agreed to work on to take you wherever you are going. As gently and beautifully as you will allow – so now you know why it hurts so much. Welcome to what you came here for. It’s in your face.

If you know… that if it is really love, it won’t hurt… oops. If you know… your partner is supposed to protect you from your pain body by being nice and never triggering it… oops. Your partner is being asked By You to assist in bringing up what you decided you wanted to work on in this life… and out of a higher love they are going to do just that until you have gotten what you went there for. Blame will only initiate energetic circumstances that will manifest a repeat episode. Sorry, but you are the one who decided you wanted to do this work…

In any relationship you are working on your basic intimacy issues with the light and Source – that is, after all, what we are here for. I call it the Deity Drama or Separation Drama. We play it out in other arenas, like health or relationships, so that we may gain experience and understanding – through putting a part of the collective density inside, and then healing it as our personal portion of the divine plan. First we get lost in it… and are now waking up and healing it… so it is not taken into the future of us all.

Everyone is in a process chosen before birth to release their baggage, issues, pain body, fear, density, resistance, dark shadow, childhood conditioning, stories… yada yada yada.

If you really want to know your purpose in life, look into your last fight or last breakup with your sweetheart. You are in the middle of that purpose… drowning in it, perhaps, but in it. In this text I hand you another rope, and as you may be highly skilled at pushing ropes away, there will be many more. You are loved.

Everyone is in a process chosen before birth to release their baggage, issues, pain body, fear, density, resistance, dark shadow, childhood conditioning, stories… yada yada yada. That ‘stuff’ cannot be taken into an era of easier manifestation because it would manifest easily. Have you noticed that this is already happening?

Perhaps if you knew how a spiritual relationship worked – remember, the only life you can have – how life works would make more sense. Here we go.

I have four rules for The Spiritual Relationship. OK, principles.

It is Never about them.

It is never about the other person. Imagine that you asked them to play this role for you, so you could get access to what you came here to deal with on your journey, and out of higher love, and for their own purposes, they agreed. You asked. They loved. If you don’t see it, go deeper. And leave the blame at the basement door. Park the judgment with it.

Another example… out of the consensus reality box: if you are having a little dance with a bacteria, virus, or parasite, you asked it to play that role for you, and you are now in “a cooperative endeavor with another species of consciousness”, to quote Seth from the ’70’s. Old stuff, ya? So if you attack your cooperative partner, life will give you your second choice in partners… and louder… ya?

This works the other way, also. If someone is blaming or finding fault with you… and their over-reaction to the situation is the biggest key… it has nothing to do with You. And if you are arguing back or defending yourself, you are lost in the mirror. Perhaps it won’t work to tell them, «It’s your pain body talking.»… but you can know it and refuse to escalate the drama.

It is not about what it’s about.

It wouldn’t trigger you so, if there was not something deeper. That is what it’s about. You went there to feel that. If you don’t feel it, you can’t heal it. That’s why you went there. And will go again… and again… until it is all released. Judging, controlling, blaming, or resisting will only prolong the process. That’s OK, take six more lifetimes if you like…

Managing and planning for every contingency in a business will have the same result… continually attempting to fix the messenger (problem) without using it for why you asked it there. Messages not listened to only get louder.

It wouldn’t trigger you so, if there was not something deeper. That is what it’s about. You went there to feel that. If you don’t feel it, you can’t heal it. That’s why you went there. And will go again… and again… until it is all released. Judging, controlling, blaming, or resisting will only prolong the process.

So you won’t solve anything by talking about what it’s about because that’s not what it’s about. It is a gift. It ain’t broke, so ‘fixing’ it, especially through talking, is only going to dig the hole deeper and feed the pain body. I know you’ve experienced that repeatedly…

Yes, there are ways to use higher energies to transmute the inner density. Shortening drama/ pain cycles from weeks to minutes… accelerating things significantly. I have a school for that.

Nothing changes until you do.

Reality is feedback, a holographic projection from within. What you see in that mirror is not going to change by your insistence. That is looking in a mirror and demanding God lie to you… good luck. Enjoy your visit on the in-your-face holodeck.

Three gold stars if you got that even the planet is not going to change for the better until you do, in the specific probability you experience as your own personal now. So right here you have a short sweet text on how changing this planet is actually going to happen… or not… by nobodies choice but yours. Bingo.

Pain is resist-dance.

Dragging oneself kicking and screaming toward being happy… been there, done that, got the T-shirt. If it hurts, you are fighting the process. There is this part of you that understands you totally, knows just what you need, loves you immensely, and is totally committed to getting you home… call it Higher Self or whatever… You are allowed to not cooperate; continued pain is how you know that’s what you’re doing. Beginning pain follows not listening to the hints to let it go.

So what do you do when you and your partner are loving and growing with each other through either the leap-frog or bumper cars of mutual pain body triggering? Well, that is exactly what you signed up for. And are convinced is wrong. Ah… conditioned judgment…

Dragging oneself kicking and screaming toward being happy… been there, done that, got the T-shirt. If it hurts, you are fighting the process.

So what to do? Disengage from the drama. Agree that each of you go where you personally need to go to look into what it is really about. No, no… caught you going somewhere to tell stories. Inside. Drop the stories there, too. Story after story and nothing changes… you know that… so enough.

Come back together when both of you can talk, and listen, without using the ‘you’ word. “I feel this when I…” Using the ‘you’ word means you haven’t gone deep enough. But you will… one way or another… by manifesting the pain and drama outside, or feeling it during the journey inside. Your choice. For sure it will be some balance of both, and you are choosing the balance point.

Remember that everyone sees your issues before you do. And so what do you do with what you see about the other, before it is “up” far enough that the other person sees it? Share it in a time or way that the other cannot receive it? Use it to wound, saving it for ammunition until you need it? That’s you making the choice to let your pain body do the talking. Are you done yet?

Inner density has to go. The spiritual relationship is, for most, the number one go-to in this department. An understanding partner in this journey can be spiritual rocket fuel. That’s why your partner is already – right now – there… already loving you exactly as you have asked and really need… to change self. That’s true love… only someone who really loved you would play those roles you asked of them.

If you are single, right now that partner you don’t have is loving you the way you most need, by not being there, and you will meet and recognize them when you have fulfilled your part of your present agreement together. You know… the agreement that says lets not play that out… one… more… time… You will meet the probability of them that has done their half when you have done yours. To get there you could meet others who would help you with the densities listed in your agreement… tho most call it pain instead of seeing it as the best they allowed of exactly what they were truly in need of…

It can be quite an art. Accept. Allow. You don’t have a choice because you already made that choice before you were born. Trust your process.

Others have decided to forgo a full-time relationship until they clean up a good part of that inner density. For many this is certainly to their highest good and ease!

This lifetime is set up to be ‘more fun and more adventure than we have had in eons’. Along the way there are going to be some symbolic manifestations as we let out the clutch in the new gear we are already in. Have fun. Let go of the fear. Surf the wave or have your face ground into the sand under it… your choice. Either way the wave will get you there! We go as we allow. Own it.

For me this not the place to write a book, offer more explanations, give examples, demonstrate principles. I do a lot of that on an individual basis as a processing intuitive. There i can play cupid introducing people to their highest probable partner, with whom they are already hanging, on the causal plane… where things are organized energetically before manifesting physically. Injoy.

Thanks to A Course in Miracles for #2, Lazaris for #3, and Oneness for understanding. Thanks for the many times my guides needed to repeat #1 to me… i required it. I suggest repeating it to yourself, with emphasis on the ‘Never’. As for #4, on the resist-dance bus, «good judgment comes from experience… experience comes from bad judgment».
If you are interested in additional understanding of the energies behind the ways people often ‘fall in love’, head to YouTube for Gregg Braden’s video ‘The Seven Essene Mirrors’. If you can handle the mullet and the hiking-up of the pants, he’s great.

And for how it is:

Matt Kahn – Soul Contracts, Twin Flames & Soul Mates Redefined :

Note: Here is my very knowing friend’s version. She writes:

«I started to write a bit on it…. inspired as to how to get the understanding clearer to someone who has not experienced processing… or understood about densities… or what to do with all the muck inside. Who knows what to do with anger, for example…. but to project it on others, or stuff it…. so anyway… here is what came up».

The Spiritual Relationship

The very words can perhaps conjure up a vision of an inspired idealistic relationship of spiritual bliss, where both people enjoy harmonious flow together… and clear communication… truthfulness… trust… happiness… joy… reflecting the highest potentials for Love. The dream.

If such a relationship seems to present itself… we eventually discover that there is something below the surface that rises up and causes emotional upheavals that can be painful… confusing… fearful… angry… insecure… controlling… destructive… and even eventually split up the relationship, with both blaming the other.

So I want to talk of Spiritual Relationship in an entirely different way.

Getting real.

Actually, spiritual relationships are the only ones we CAN have. They all serve as reflections that we need to «Know Thyself».

All of our relationships are mirror reflections of some part of us… and used as such can be keys which can unlock the secrets to getting free… thus, they are truly spiritual relationships.

Our dreams can only become remotely possible in reality, (on an abiding basis), once we *wake up… and we begin to see the cluttered, toxic, complex condition of our inner realm, the egoic network with whom we identify, that has become who we think we are (which consists of layers of tightly woven veils of well hidden lies/illusions… and not to be underestimated in its power over us)… and to learn how to release and clear it out. Heal the wounds, un-do the false, disintegrate the densities. Get free.

All of our relationships are mirror reflections of some part of us… and used as such can be keys which can unlock the secrets to getting free… thus, they are truly spiritual relationships.

A powerful spiritual relationship is mutually conscious, and deep enough to reflect both our highest potential… and our deepest fears and emotional pain. It’s very important purpose is to do all of that, whether we know it or not from its onset.

On deeper levels each person agrees to this encounter… even (and especially) the difficult parts. So the relationship is not failing when it appears to be immersed in a stuck repeating loop of painful dramas… but is being presented with exactly what each person needs to clear out of their own energetic field.

The all-important purifying burn.

From this context, two people can consciously co-operate to do this Work together… and so can even welcome the dark shadow work to come up, for the purpose, and with the support of the other, to process it out.

To do this, one of the first things both need to know is that… the stuff that comes to the surface:

* IT IS NOT ABOUT THEM. (the other person)
(especially when it most seems like it is…)

Our feelings may have been triggered by them… (that is their job, *in this context)… but the feelings and belief systems coming up are from our own source. If one person gets lost here… it is hugely beneficial if the other can hold space for them (i.e. not get tangled up in the drama, and stay conscious and focused), so that the triggered one can go down into this density, fear, belief, etc, for the purpose of dispersing and releasing it.

The higher purpose of any kind of relationship is to get at the truth, and if we don’t yet know what that means… then to uncover the false within us is a great way to start.

The Truth, gratefully, remains un-scathed, well beyond our antics.

This is self-inquiry and inner work that each person needs to be consciously engaged in apart from the other… and is then reflected in the other, as a mirror.

If we blame the other for our suffering, we miss the entire point… and will get lost when one insists on «talking about it» endlessly when none of it is even real outside of false projections that seem so real.

So to communicate clearly, we learn to disengage from the drama… and to remember what our objective… our intention is.

*IT ISN’T ABOUT WHAT IT IS ABOUT. (what appears to be the situation/story)

It is about removing all the veils, fears, beliefs, pain body densities, projections, etc… that is underlying that story.

It is important to keep a strong connection with the other person, in the mutual recognition of this. In doing so, when one person gets lost, the other can guide them back… help them into observation mode to see it, process it… not deny or stuff it… or attack with it.

This can get touchy… as both can be triggered… and so not being attached requires development.

What it is about is getting free of the whole mess… not sorting out a tangled web of dramas… but realizing whole package and its complex contents> are illusions.

52169_1 — The Embrace (1917), by Egon Schiele

*NOTHING CHANGES UNTIL YOU DO.

You cannot affect abiding growth and change by trying to manipulate another person’s behavior, blaming them or anything outside of yourself for your tormenting issues. The mirror does not lie… it is designed to reflect exactly what is in front of it. God makes no mistakes here.

You can try to change the mirror image… (imagine trying to do this with a real mirror as you stand in front of it)… you can even change partners, or situations if this one gets too uncomfortable, or you don’t like the reflection staring back at you, or it isn’t giving you the happiness you think it should… but the inner source of the reflection is>>> still within you, and it will eventually attract another appropriate mirror, which will likely start as another well intended dream…. and eventually arrive at the same juncture. The work cannot be avoided if our intention is to Awaken…. to no longer be satisfied to be trapped in a web of lies.

To learn this is a wise and essential component to moving forward… and to allowing the transformational FLOW of this process.

*PAIN IS RESISTANCE.

Why do we suffer emotional pain and suffering, over and over in repeating cycles… and even design our lives to both create/attract the whole thing, and to try everything to avoid feeling it or owning it?

This is not so absurd to ego. Ego stays well ensconced as long as we engage in this behavior… that by its very design can never be satisfied or sorted out. Ego’s fuel is reactivity and it loves to stay hidden, as blame is placed on external sources.

There is a false sense of identity we have gained, and it is complex and based on deeply rooted belief systems pounded into us while growing up.

The mind can be used to make the false seem real.

The thing being disturbed IS the false thing, and were it not there, there would be nothing to be disturbed.

The false self carries a burden of its own ignorance… is the origin of our suffering.
Fear is its powerful ally and valuable multi-use tool.

There is a greater force at work to awaken and free us… which we have also chosen.

How we relate to that force determines how we either flow with it, or we resist it. The mind/ego ups the stakes of the upheaval and pain created as it rebels and fights against this essential unraveling of what was never true. However long it takes for us to be done with it, or however much grasping for control, suffering, kicking and screaming we engage in… is our choice, or series of choices.

We eventually, when sufficiently humbled by the futility of the exhausting resist-dance, learn the value of surrender.

It is important to ask one’s self… what do I want?

Is it is first and foremost to free one’s self… to Awaken?

Ego is a force to reckon with at every turn… but battling it only re enforces its seeming power over us… by making it an enemy, which it is not.

This is why resistance only further digs us in deeper, as it is designed to do, being based in fear.

As we free ourselves… our balance of energy changes… and we become clearer… we can then allow spiritual Light to do our purifying Work for us, effortlessly.

Our spiritual path expands, and awakens… as we simply get out of its WAY.
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Then there is the:

Un-co-operative Spiritual Relationship… ah yes.

So, if you are in a relationship that is reactive, tumultuous, and there is no clear connection and plenty of mis-communication and finger pointing, and control games between the people involved… etc, etc… we may experience the opposite of the 4 principles previously discussed:

*It IS SO about them. (they said this or that mean thing, they cheated, they are abusive, they don’t respect me….…etc)

*It IS ABSOLUTELY about what it is about (something said or done by the other, creating a situation, a story, and that IS what it is about)

*It will change when I can change the behavior of the other, or change the situation.

*Pain and suffering is caused by them or the situation.

OK… then… Now what?

Do I need to be right, and the other wrong? Does something in me seek attention by being the «victim»…. to enjoy attracting a rescuer of sorts to save me? Perhaps the unfairness of life is to blame? Whatever….

Can a dis-functional relationship be straightened out, healed, become functional?

Where clearly some of this ‘who-did-what-when’ scenario may appear to be absolutely real on one level… it has no basis in truth on another… in fact, it reinforces the false… and its un-ending complexities are counterproductive to getting free.

The ego can make us believe lies… and unconsciously project them all over the place… we invite persons to be our mirrors… however beautiful or unpleasant the reflections become. Then we point our finger at the mirror… as being the both the source of the problem/pain, as well as the source our happiness… of love. Neither of which is true.

Example… If we have a poor self image, we will manifest someone to tell us that in all the ways that agree with and trigger our own negative belief systems (albeit subconscious) about ourselves… and trigger up the corresponding pain reservoirs within us. We may call the person abusive?? Would we rather be gifted with a beautiful tender trap of seductive lies to make us seem so perfect and lovable… before we ourselves believe it? And when the source of that pulls it away, what are we left with… rejection??

Or… if we have trust issues, we will find betrayal following us. We will project what trust means to us onto another… which may have little to do with them, and so we eventually feel betrayed when they do not live up to our projections.

In the same way, we can project our dreams and love onto them… believing that they give us happiness, security, love… etc. Our source of power is switched from within us to an external source. This will eventually fall apart… because it is not true.

So even the un-cooperative relationship is full of information and opportunities… and when we have finally had enough… we will seek to understand why:

*It is not about them.
*It is not what it is about.
*Nothing changes until you do.
*Pain is resistance.

Sometimes it does become time to move on… but it has to be for the right reasons. Moving out of a relationship that is not moving at all can be a reflection of one’s own true inner movement… and not an escape from facing the truth.
One learns about the flow…. and allows it.

The Spiritual Relationship 2

If it can throw you off your centre, into negative ego emotions, that situation or person is your teacher in that moment for your next step in your spiritual maturity.

A view on the topic by Angela Economakis

Relationships. They don’t last long any more where the lower vibrational proliferation of drama prevails.

The ‘honeymoon period’ of relationships is getting progressively shorter. To put it crudely: your shit comes up way faster than ever before. Have you noticed? So what to do?

Projection, denial of ownership, refusal to take responsibility for the co-creation or allowing of a situation will quickly end in ‘pain-body’ trigger, rampaging inner child/inner adolescent dominance, wounded adult overwhelm and seemingly justified rationale to perpetuate and escalate separation, duality and more drama.

The ‘honeymoon period’ of relationships is getting progressively shorter. To put it crudely: your shit comes up way faster than ever before. Have you noticed? So what to do?

‘The 4 principles of any ‘Spiritual Relationship’ are based on the simple tools we live by and work with in my groups, workshops and sessions. They apply to ANY relationship or encounter, be it intimate, friends, family, work colleagues or random encounters. If it can throw you off your centre, into negative ego emotions, that situation or person is your teacher in that moment for your next step in your spiritual maturity.

May they bring you as much self-awareness, liberation, deeper intimacy, tolerance, self-acceptance and love, as they continually bring me and those who work with them.

1. ‘It’s never about them’

The faster you can move out of blame and drama mode, the better.

– The other person who is triggering you/or who you are in a drama with, is playing a ‘role‘ FOR you.

– The faster you can move out of blame and drama mode, the better.

– Disengage, go inside, follow the triggered emotion to see what role they are playing for your benefit for spiritual growth and inner egoic healing (to clear a pattern up).

– The sooner this is done, the sooner the whole thing will dissolve.

– Leave judgment about it, about you and about the other person out. This just delays everything.

2. ‘It’s never about what it’s about’

Einstein said: ‘You can’t fix a problem with the same mind that created it.’

– E.g. your anger is not about the mess in the kitchen. It’s about what the mess in the kitchen represents underneath

– i.e. maybe it’s representing the joyful freedom your partner experienced during their creative expression whilst cooking. When was the last time you surrendered to your carefree nature in the same way, you may ask yourself?

– Trying to ‘fix’ something that is not the ‘real’ issue is a total waste of time, energy and losing the whole point entirely, as that’s not the problem anyway!

– You’ll also just keep inflating the drama, making the pain worse, and ‘feeding the pain body’.

– Go deep to find the gold. Disengage and go inside.

– Remember – Einstein said: ‘You can’t fix a problem with the same mind that created it.’
So stop the endless stubborn fighting to do so.

3. ‘Nothing changes until you do’

So you can keep playing out the same magnetized drama or you can go within

– You hold one end of a script in this ‘holographic’ explanation of reality.

– Everything you experience on the ‘outside’ is just a projection from the film-role running ‘inside’ – The sum total of your beliefs, patterns, conscious and unconscious drives.

– So you can keep playing out the same magnetized drama or you can go within, look at what ‘end of the script’ you’re holding and playing out (ad nauseam), feel it, own it, heal it, to then experience the very real and often immediate shifts in your outer world or ‘reality’.

4. ‘Pain is resistance’

If you don’t listen to the whispers, you’ll be forced to listen to t he screams

– ‘If it hurts, you’re fighting the process’.

– There is a higher part of you – let’s call it higher self, that is committed to ensuring you get exactly where you set out to get to in this life – call it ‘home’, call it fulfilling your chosen experience or mission in this life. – Our ego believes it knows what’s best for us – we try to control, manipulate and determine our path. The pain is the sign that we’re not listening to the signs to LET GO, allow, trust and surrender to a process that ‘knows’ better.

– Remember:‘if you don’t listen to the whispers, you’ll be forced to listen to t he screams’
……. in ALL domains – from the ’emotional pain body’ to the eventual manifestation of a physical dis-ease process.

The Summary

FEEL IT – to the bottom, to neutralize the electromagnetic charge on the pain body.

TAKE OWNERSHIP – if it exists, you have either created or allowed it in your external reality. No exceptions to that law.

HARNESS IT – there will be a REASON for your own spiritual growth for doing so.

DISENGAGE: from the one/the person, who has triggered this response (it’s never about them and it’s not what it’s about! Remember! And solving it on that level is NOT the solution – Einstein!)

GO INSIDE yourself: Meditate, do some inner inquiry work and take a little journey within and see what it’s really about, what is underneath the story. Then call in some higher dimensional energies – love, light, whatever you like to call it, to help you transmute the ‘density’ you’ve found and accessed.

TRUST: a rebalancing and a recalibration happens and you will begin to experience your reality and your relationships through different lenses entirely.

DON’T JUDGE IT: Judge none of it.. it is what it is.. you’re moving through your spiritual growth as you designed it at the highest level. Let it transform you, but don’t judge ‘the one’ who is learning and growing.

Remember: ‘NO TWO PEOPLE WILL EVER EXPERIENCE THE SAME SCENARIO IN THE SAME WAY’.

– Each will have their experience of it based on their filters, issues and emotional pain body charges.

– You are serving each other in a mutual growth process. Use the opportunity or you can guarantee, it will be repeated again, with another person, and usually louder with more pain in order to get your attention to achieve resolution. Victim consciousness begins to dissolve and crumble, and a liberation and re-empowerment through an emotional and spiritual maturity begins to evolve, unfold and anchor.

With love for your onward journey and Merry/Happy/Holiday Fest!
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