Empath Angels

Highly sensitive people who take into themselves the negative emotional energies others do not want to deal with, or take in negative energies from the environment.

I do a lot of work with Empaths, taking them through an empowerment process to do something besides eat or identify with the energies.  I am posting the information here as I work with it… basics without the details at this point.  This work helps many totally re-understand their lives.  Comments and suggestions invited.

The first website talking about a certain kind of people and their problems, and calling them Empaths, appeared about 12 years ago.  By 2008 there were 6 or 7 such sites in a Google search.  Soon after that there were Empath sites with message boards and communities of people.  Today it’s a bit harder to find such sites because the results in an ‘empath’ search are swamped with everything out there on a new topic of ‘empathy and sympathy’, a different subject.  To look at much of what’s on the web, I suggest this as a Google search string, exactly as is:  “empath” –sympathy

In general Empaths are highly sensitive people who take into themselves the negative emotional energies others do not want to deal with, or take in negative energies from the environment.  Others would say it is a process of identifying with the energies more than actually taking them in… either way, the effect is the same and can be worked with however it is for you.  As you might expect it causes a lot of problems.  Most websites for Empaths are to help with those problems, fix the Empaths, or teach them how to protect themselves from such energies.

I’ve been conducting trainings for Empaths for about 8 years, and in the last several years have often worked with groups of young spiritual types where more than half the participants raised their hands when asked who tended to regularly take the emotional density of others into themselves. Every week I am told that what I share made sense of someone’s entire life for the first time.

As a therapist I had such people as clients, identified them as a group and as one myself, and began working with them in a way that seemed to help. Over the years I gained a lot of insight and when I learned they were called Empaths and checked out the web, what I found seemed simplistic and missing the point.  I’ve been conducting trainings for Empaths for about 8 years, and in the last several years have often worked with groups of young spiritual types where more than half the participants raised their hands when asked who tended to regularly take the emotional density of others into themselves.  Every week I am told that what I share made sense of someone’s entire life for the first time.  There were three of them yesterday.

I believe the story of these people needs to be told.  But not in the protection oriented way common on the web.  There are millions of them.  A full understanding is not out there anywhere, so far as I know.  It’s big.  It’s got emotional appeal.  It’s out-of-the-box of the consensus reality… but not as far out as it used to be…

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A little background:  Many branches of psychology accept that, for instance, adolescents tend to take on the emotional densities of their parents, act them out, and then get punished by those adults for the energies that the adults won’t own as belonging to them.  This is considered to be a fact.  What if those emotional energies actually left the adults, were taken in by the adolescents, and the buckets of tears or acting out was the way they cleared the internalized energies out of their system?  Many Empaths who have become aware of what they are doing… understand that this is exactly how it is.

My work with empaths is to demonstrate to them that they are highly trained energy workers who got that training through eating the negativity of others (or the natural world) since they were children.

And a note:  Protection from the negative energies of others does not work.  This use of ones energy is a prayer that tells the universe this is the kind of fun you want to have, so reality throws more at you.  “Defense is a prayer for attack.” -A Course in Miracles.  Mother Theresa is widely quoted that she would never attend an anti-war rally… but if you had one for peace, she’d be there.  She understood that to be anti-war is to suggest to existence that you want more war on the planet as your joy is in fighting against it.  “The best way to have more drugs [or terror] in a society, is to have a ‘War On Drugs“. -don’t remember the channeled source.

My work with empaths is to demonstrate to them that they are highly trained energy workers who got that training through eating the negativity of others (or the natural world) since they were children.  In a society without the shamans, nuns, monks, or witches to tell their parents that their children are going to have specialized training in the human and planetary pain body, and where the adults around them do not accept that such energy transference from one person to another is even possible, where is that training going to come from?  Someone who reads Eckhart Tolle understands that if the contents of the pain body are not released… “For those who hold on to the old patterns, there will be increasing pain, violence, confusion, and madness.”  …Eckhart Tolle on relationships.  In a society where you are taught to deal with your pain body through having dramas… those pain body experts are going to be needed, as their training began as children.

In this context, Empaths serve as an emotional release pathway for society.  An individual is relieved of their emotional charge, or a group or office is relieved of similar negativity (where those doing so are called ‘grounds’, because like a lightening rod, they conduct away the dense often emotional energies).  As you can imagine, most of those who do this work, generally unconsciously, have problems from it.  Of course, we are a bit ‘out-of-the-box’ here in terms of what is reasonable in the consensus reality, but there are many for whom these ideas resonate and are quite acceptable.

If we focus on the absorbers of those densities, we might call it service, or dysfunction.  If we would focus on those who were relieved of the emotional burden, even if they later regenerated that burden… we would call it healing, or at least temporary symptomatic relief.  If an Empath is simply feeling, empathetically, the emotions of another… maybe it hurts… but this is nothing special.  If the emotions themselves are being energetically transferred, and the Empath has tears, depression, or acts-out because it hurts and because that behavior moves the energies out of them… that is advanced healing work, however unpleasant.  An Empath I know blogs:

I used to listen for hours [to a friend] while she… unloaded her angry emotions onto me. When the conversation was over, she was all happy and bubbly, and it would take me days to recover – to let go of the emotions she dumped on me.

If this Empath was only feeling the emotions, her friend would not have ended up so happy and bubbly, and it would not have taken days to recover.

Imagine this: a therapist is sitting with a client… the client is experiencing the release of negative emotions and related belief systems from within, so that they move toward the end of repeatedly living out those scenarios in their life.  The therapist is an Empath who no longer internalizes such energies, but knows exactly what to do with them.  Making the same connection through which they may have received a parent’s pain when they were 4 years old, density just as effortlessly flows from the client and is directed to transmutation at the levels of reality that the therapist is in partnership with.  As the client feels lighter, the flow reverses and the client fills the now empty spaces with something far more suitable, and also brings in the new belief systems, etc., through the same channel used to release the density.  All the while, the client is learning to do this for themselves.

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The Empaths developed both this channel and their inner understanding of human emotional density, beginning in infancy or childhood, through receiving negativity from others or from their environment.  As an Empath myself, I have been assisting other Empaths to finish eating the densities of others and to use their talents in the way just described… and more… and have fun doing it.

We have skills that will be welcomed by increasing numbers of people who find themselves in a process and an imperative to release what Eckhard Tolle calls the ‘pain body’… people who do not know how to get that density out of them.

Eating all that emotional and energetic garbage has prepared us to understand and work with negative energy release, at a time on the planet when that knowledge will be profoundly needed.  We have skills that will be welcomed by increasing numbers of people who find themselves in a process and an imperative to release what Eckhard Tolle calls the ‘pain body’… people who do not know how to get that density out of them.  We are trained in that how… we are some of the most highly skilled healers on the planet!  It’s ok if these ideas are a little new… give yourself the time.

Of course, you’re not going to be much help if you continue eating it in the same way you studied it… so this is about making that change.  About doing what you already do naturally… but in a way that is fun, powerful, fulfilling, effortless, and a huge blessing to others.  That blessing to others is the ‘angels’ part… Empath Angels.  Having experienced the pain of the human condition in this way, we have the inner authority to work with it.  We earned that authority!  We have no outer license from society… in fact they have made us wrong.  Our inner license will do just fine.

Most of us gave up a lot of our childhood, our adolescence, and our love life… to get that training.  It hurt.  We got no understanding or validation from anyone – especially from those, like parents, who didn’t want to know their energies were causing us problems.  We chose this, millions of us, before we were born, knowing what would happen.  That’s right, you cooperatively arranged the people who would train you with their negative energy, before you were born.  You are not a victim and there is nothing wrong with you!  Perhaps you have assumed that something this big in your life is outside of your Divine Plan?

Whatever part of the negativity on this planet you specialize in… Empaths, you’ve eaten it all.  You might suck it in from individuals, groups, public places, a disaster on television, or the environment… but suck it in you do, and trained you are… in the only way that training was available.  If the teachers had come (if there even were teachers when you were three-and-a-half or four years old) and told your parents that you were different and belonged with them for training, likely your parents would’ve called the police.  Empaths, you got your training in moving negative energies by eating them, and then by finding a way – often not pleasant – to get that density out of you so you had room to eat more.

Thank you.  That part of your training didn’t come easy, but I know many Empaths who are glad they did it… and they know they will be deeply needed.

As an Empath, I am here to share what I have learned through years of assisting hundreds of Empaths with this transformation. To no longer do something with outside energies that makes your heart shut down and want to run away.

This is to get you ready.  You have nothing more to learn by continuing to eat the emotional densities of others or those of the environment, whatever your specialty.  There are other ways to play with these energies – but without taking them inside.  Learning not to eat them will be a process.  It’s time.

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As an Empath, I am here to share what I have learned through years of assisting hundreds of Empaths with this transformation.  To no longer do something with outside energies that makes your heart shut down and want to run away.  After all, we didn’t go through all that pain and confusion for nothing.  After all, the time is coming when you have scheduled yourself to be sitting with someone who is ready to let go of some painful inner density, but who is too terrified to understand how… and you can know: “Ha… I ate worse than that when I was eight”.  That is being in your power without fear, and assisting with the often-emotional energies that most people would rather die than look at.  Important life-saving job… fit for an ‘Angel’, yes?  Here we will help you to understand all about that job… it is uniquely different for each of us.

That part of your training is over… a new part begins.  You can learn to stop putting all that stuff inside, or stop protecting yourself from it.  Many Empaths make the shift from problem to power and are playing with their abilities in an hour or so.  Others find that the fear of being competent or different, the loss of the payoff from their disability, or having to give up the old habits… is a bit more than they are ready for… just now.  We will cover all this here.

You have a PhD in every inner thing our culture teaches us to push down and deny.  A PhD in everything that, as the next years unfold, a planet full of people are going to be releasing as a part of the ‘shift’ we are all going through.  Doctors and psychologists only know to drug you if you have ‘stuff coming up’.  We, millions of us, are almost the only ones who will know how to help.  That’s why you began training as an infant or child.  You will be needed.  You are ready for the fun part.  Further consumption of – or protection from – negative energies will not be required.  Doctors will be sending people to us.

Forgive me if I sound a bit New Agey… but we are all headed to a place where it will be easier to manifest what we want.  If we take our inner baggage there… it will also manifest easily, like it or not.  So those inner issues have to go.  And that will happen in a culture that teaches everyone to push inner negative stuff back down, where it then manifests outside in the world and is experienced as trauma, drama, pain, struggle, and suffering… so a planet full of such releasing, with so many in blame and projection about it, would not be a fun place to be!  There is another way to get that stuff out of people.  Empaths have been experiencing that way, beginning quite young and usually unconsciously, in order to one day help and show others that way.  Time for an adventure!  “Engage!”

For decades we have been working at levels of healing far beyond what the culture even considers possible, so the only way that could happen, without blowing your cover, was if it was called dysfunction and you had little understanding or validation for what was really happening.

Other than a few shamans and energy healers (certainly not the regular folks acceptable to other regular folks as helpers), we are among the few who know how to assist others to release these energies.  And you have been doing it for decades… that’s a lot of training and experience!  Very professional of you!  That’s why I said doctors will be sending people – not only the doctors are well-trained!  For decades we have been working at levels of healing far beyond what the culture even considers possible, so the only way that could happen, without blowing your cover, was if it was called dysfunction and you had little understanding or validation for what was really happening.

That cover is blown!  It’s time.  Time to let go of the belief that there is something wrong with you.  Congratulations… one part of your training is over.  Empath Angels I’m talking to you.  It’s time for more… time to learn who you are, time to be that you in the world.  It’s time to finish eating and deal with being powerful.  There will be enough time for everything.  At your own pace.  Go ahead; it’s ok to hide from it all for a few years… it will be right there, ready when you are.

Empath Training Recording

thanks to Paula!

We have a phone recording make-do empath training up on SoundCloud. This work has changed the lives of so many people! If you are a sponge for the density / negative energies of others, groups, things happening in the world, or from the environment, animals, plants… we are talking to you. Your entire life will make so much more sense!

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A note to the different ones…

Those who, as they planned, didn’t fully cave-in to the consensus reality conditioning, remain as a threatening reminder to those who did. It isn’t you, it is what you represent.

There are very large numbers of people, especially the young, who are, in effect, a different species. That’s right, some channeled beings do say “different species”… the inner difference is that great. The young ones, and more, are not buying the lie. The split leads some to satanic sites, some to cutting, some to drugs – to deal with it all. You are going to have Lots of company! Somebody had to break trail. Those of us who made the maps in the 1980’s and 1990’s… we thank you. My friend Angela Economakis and her Luminary Academy are on the leading edge of working with the 18 yr old and younger wizards-to-be.

My teachers told us this story. An analogy that compares the process we are now in to the exploration of the western United States by the European settlers. First, there were the explorers that walked and went on horseback into the Rocky Mountains… they found the passes and met the natives. As first were Tibetans, Mayans, shamans… ancient cultures all over the world. The 1st wave of settlers went in covered wooden wagons drawn by oxen over road-less landscapes. This was my group, in the ‘80’s and 90’s. It was a long hard journey and it hurt to watch a lot of us not make it. Our job was to build railroads for the 2nd wave, who would have steam locomotives… enjoy your trains and hotels! Those of you in the 2nd wave are building the airports, because the 3rd wave will have jumbo jets. Early airports are being completed, and 3rd wavers are realizing that they already know how to fly.

If the developing wizard identifies with the rejection and judgment… and takes it personally… as about them rather than about the one fearfully judging… there will be pain. Do know that the pain is a message intended to lead you to find the beliefs that are out of alignment with who you really are.

Those who, as they planned, didn’t fully cave-in to the consensus reality conditioning, remain as a threatening reminder to those who did. It isn’t you, it is what you represent. As a forerunner [some choose to go first]… as you recognize that in some way you didn’t buy all the collective insanity… and won’t… you can expect those who did to consider you insane – a threat – as their own insanity will be projected onto any who don’t go along with it… what else can they do to protect themselves?

It isn’t you, it is what you represent.

If the developing wizard identifies with the rejection and judgment… and takes it personally… as about them rather than about the one fearfully judging… there will be pain. Do know that the pain is a message intended to lead you to find the beliefs that are out of alignment with who you really are.

…And that’s the problem, as the voice of fear will tell you that if you step even further away from the consensus insanity by cleaning up your inner reality to make room for your magic, then, guaranteed, all you will have is more pain, more abandonment, fewer friends. If you take it personally, you will have that pain. If instead you let them go, knowing it is not about you, it is not their time, and they have the right to their own truth and timing… you will make room for others who see you for who you are.

You will lose friends. Love yourself and allow that.

I understand that we are going there anyway… as that is the choice we all made before birth… and it is our choice now to cooperate with ourselves and have an adventure, or fight it and have an increasing nightmare… as the magic we came here to be, pushes harder from within.

As the energies continue up, month by month for years more, everything within will expand. Your creativity, gifts, and magic will get easier and easier to manifest… and your dramas will get bigger, more frequent, and more painful. The good gets gooder and the bad gets badder. Everything is polarizing. The sooner you deal with your stuff, the sooner you will be in a place to help others as the planetary emotional detox accelerates.

Those who resist the release of the old will have increasing pain, chaos, violence, and insanity.” -Eckhart Tolle

Imagine what is coming… I know folks who have had debilitating physical pain where the scanners and doctors can find absolutely nothing wrong. Maybe the fear of opening your healing magic will keep you only peeking out of the consensus box until people you love are in such nightmares.

In the future, the doctors will be sending people to you.” -so say numerous enlightened beings.

Relax, have fun, learn that you can use what you don’t like as a gift to take you deeper. It takes time, effort, and patience to love those parts of you, inside and out, that you were taught to judge and reject. I know many who have already done enough inner clean-up to be in an absurdly magical reality where the universe just can’t stop bringing things and events better than what could be imagined… again and again and again. If that fun is not your reality, know that you are close, and your shit is working overtime to get you there.

“Most people do not see their beliefs, Instead, their beliefs tell them what they see. This is the simple difference between clarity and confusion.” Matt Kahn

Reality is feedback.” -so many

Reality conforms to your description of it.” -Carlos Castaneda quoting Don Juan

Most people do not see their beliefs, Instead, their beliefs tell them what they see. This is the simple difference between clarity and confusion.” -Matt Kahn

You don’t get what you want, you get what you are… you get what you are a vibrational match for.” -Wayne Dyer + Abraham-Hicks

Your circumstances are only a reflection of the energies that you are projecting onto the others. When you shift your energies, the circumstances shift accordingly. It cannot be otherwise.” -A Journey to Oneness through Rasha

You can’t change what you see until you learn from what you see.” -Bentinho Massaro

I tell a story where I bury a treasure somewhere in town… and hand you a shovel. You might walk around for a while looking for a fresh pile of dirt, but basically it would be rather hopeless. But if I put a tall pole right there with a big flag and flashing lights and loud horns… it would be lots easier to find that treasure. In the vast landscape of your consciousness, your symptoms… what you have been taught is wrong and are trying to fix in you or with your reality… are the flags telling you right where to dig for the healing treasure. They are the gifts you gave yourself to make things easier. Use them, because if you don’t, those other dimensions of you that love you so much will help your unopened gifts get louder.

Sooner or later the fear of what happens if you don’t unwrap your gifts gets bigger than the fear of unwrapping them… and you will… many will. So compassionately allow everyone to have their choice of ugly dramas as a planet full of people goes through this.

You have volunteered to experience the full gamut of possibility in one physical lifetime, so that you might cull the experience of sacred knowingness from the complexity of the dramas of physical incarnation.” -Oneness through Rasha

If you like how you feel, continue… if you don’t, take a nap.” –Abraham-Hicks

Blessings from Keith and Barbara, and the Lake.

A lil update…

Consider cooperating with your process… or judge it and have a resistance festival on the hard bus.

As some look at it, we are in the 3rd of 4 tsunamis of light to wash over this reality this year. This month of July, the ocean is going out… exposing all sorts of deeper fears and issues. Through August, the wave of light will be coming in… ride it or believe you will drown, whatever, it will be just fine. What is happening this month is to prepare room inside to fill with more love, opening, and shifting as the wave arrives. Those who cooperate will find themselves released from some old patterns and with new abilities opened into September. Just in time to have the center that allows others to have their chosen dramas, without you taking it personally or going into fear because of it… as we have increasing chaos in the world these next months [although I feel most of the economic crazy will be next year]. Consider cooperating with your process… or judge it and have a resistance festival on the hard bus.

One of the Tribe sent this, and I thought I would quote it and share…

They wrote: “A funny thing happened, I started having the same reaction to cacao that I’ve had for years to sugar, namely, weakness, tiredness, poor concentration, crankiness, so I stopped drinking it. Does it have natural sugar in it?”

Our reply: Nope, that’s not the problem. As is explained in depth on our website, what you need to ‘come up’ from your inner reality is being facilitated by the cacao… it gets judged cause you don’t like it, don’t want it, and have not yet learned to trust and follow the messages from Higher Self called symptoms… the symptoms you listed above are metaphors designed to lead you deeper. No problem, it will get louder and then either you will blame something else… suppress it in some other way… or go deeper. Have fun. This will also help: Ascension Symptons.

The cranky is the key, and the tired is the way you stay safe from going deeper into what it is really about… or is the way you slow yourself down so you are more likely to go within… and into what you must be ready for, or it wouldn’t be here… as it all is being organized by other levels of your own being. blessings

Parallel Reality Shifting / Quantum Jumping / Timeline Shifting

Blessings from keith and barbara

Over the last 1.5 years we have been having lots of magical fun with a new technique that is a truly amazing game changer. After getting into it for a while, I found others on the web doing the same thing in many different ways. Ours is the simplest I have seen.

Our friend Rocio made a great video, and it is up on YouTube. Discussion, stories, interviews, porch footage, and the technique itself. Have fun and amaze yourself!

The Art of Ascension, English:

The Art of Ascension, Spanish subtitles:

The Split

Your future is going to be like you feel right now. The universe is giving you a message that you are out of alignment with the magic… it will get louder.

Here in Guatemala, we recently had a cacao ceremony for about 250 at the Cosmic Convergence Festival across the lake. The noticeable difference… much more pronounced than last year, was the ‘split’.

You know the split between love and fear that is so big that no one can sit in the middle any more. This was a split between those on the magic bus that ‘got’ the meditations… and those otherwise Aya using psychonauts who just couldn’t relate to the advanced inner work we were tossing out. Only about 40% of the folks at this music and consciousness festival could keep up.

Sure, there have always been those who remain locked in the rational mind… who are clueless trying to figure out what should be happening – their timing is different. But these 60% were people who otherwise believe they are at the leading edge of consciousness… and they are choosing to miss the most important event in the history of humanity. That’s OK, they will be the students and not the teachers with the next wave.

One of our favorite porch people had a private session here today. She was refusing to step into her magic because some people just don’t know what to do with a powerful woman… and everyone would be uncomfortable. We both watched the same metaphorical vision of several boats pulling away from a dock on our lake here. One boat was to the highest probable future, and the other boats were to progressively lower-vibration magical futures. She was standing on the dock as all these boats were beginning to leave. Ouch.

If you thought that 2016 was a bad year and you are hoping that 2017 will be better… you are choosing to not even be on the dock. Your future is going to be like you feel right now. The universe is giving you a message that you are out of alignment with the magic… it will get louder. If you think you should meditate harder, Bashar says that the first step to enlightenment is to lighten up. …blessings from the porch

About the USA election

In the 70’s, I taught detox through fasting, diet, and herbal helpers. Sometimes folks would go through rather astonishing skin eruptions, even abscesses… it could be painful and quite messy, as in lots of pus and blood. Most folks needed a lot of reassurance that the process was actually positive, especially with the input of so many of their friends that the detox process was obviously very bad for them.

You and I need to change… as that is all there is to change.

I see that there are many out there that need assistance with understanding the symptoms of the global detox we are all in… to make room for who we really are. We do want to change a few things, and this election makes it really clear what needs to be changed. You and I need to change… as that is all there is to change.

Here are some suggestions for seeing yourself and what is ready to change within you:

An intro from Deepak Chopra: After Trump, what will it take to heal?

Much more deeply into it from Abraham Hicks:

You might also know that one of today’s most important spiritual teachers, Bentinho Massaro (who just made his entire past material available for free download) suggested that everyone vote for Donald Trump. If that makes no sense to you, may it become clearer in your future.

And this from Matt Kahn: Calling all Earth Angels and Lightworkers

blessings to you all. keith

Notes from the flow via keith and barbara

Exhaustion is the result of resisting joy/excitement/desire

“went to an introductory lecture on Bioresonance for one of those frequency zapper thingies….. I forgot what being in a room of normal (desperately seeking fixing) people was like.” -PM

“cacao ceremonies of all descriptions in Berlin almost every week these days” -PM

“By the second half of 2016 you will have embraced the inevitability of magical occurrences and surprising successes entering your life at an almost alarming rate.” –Bentinho Massaro

“You are in the process of discovering that you are the reality that you previously thought you existed in… Fourth density reality will allow you to experience your reality as a part of you.” –Bashar

“Exhaustion is the result of resisting joy/excitement/desire” -?

“You don’t get what you want, you get what you are.” –Dr. Wayne Dyer

“Everything is meaningless – Nothing ever has any set-in meaning. Everything is neutral until you assign it a meaning… …so take a moment to pause and not automatically assign negative connotation, negative meaning to whatever circumstances unfolding before you, know that it is positive, behave toward it positively, respond creatively, intuitively, inspirationally, and by giving it that energy, anything that is not part of that vibration will drop away more easily, and all that remains will be the thing that you will want to do anything, in the way that is correct for you to do it” ~ Bashar

“When you are born in a world you don’t fit in; it’s because you were born to help create a new one.” –Dolores Cannon

“The present actually changes the past.” -Bashar

“Wisdom does not flow out of the Past but flows from the Future.” — Lazaris

“The steps of getting there are the qualities of being there.” –Lazaris

Mantra of the day: “Dearest inner child, please don’t ever change, since it is I who is meant to change the way I view you – no matter how you think, act, choose or behave. Come as you are. Be as you wish. You are safe to be the gift of uniqueness the world is ready to receive. I love you.” –Matt Kahn

The Spititual Relationship 1

The principle purpose of the spiritual relationship – whether with your health, your sweetheart, or your business – is to bring to the surface what you (or all of you in something like a business) have agreed to work on to take you wherever you are going.

[Note:  I sent this page to a few people for suggestions before i published it.  One of them was a great friend, my Ex, who doesn’t relate to my ‘information dense’ writing style where one sentence may need to be contemplated for a bit because of all it contains.  She offered a rewrite, anonymously.  I’m delighted, you will find it immediately after.]

You didn’t grow up with a map to the spiritual relationship… the only kind of relationship you can have in today’s energies of awakening.  Here is that map.

Right now you are in a spiritual relationship with lovers, business partners, friends, family, even teachers… also truly with your health, wealth, and creative expression.  You are in the same sort of relationship with a garden, a project, a busness… whatever.  The Spiritual Relationship is a catchy word for life.  Bet if i called it Life you wouldn’t be reading this…

If you know… that if it is really love, it won’t hurt… oops.

The principle purpose of the spiritual relationship – whether with your health, your sweetheart, or your business – is to bring to the surface what you (or all of you in something like a business) have agreed to work on to take you wherever you are going.  As gently and beautifully as you will allow – so now you know why it hurts so much.  Welcome to what you came here for.  It’s in your face.

If you know… that if it is really love, it won’t hurt… oops.  If you know… your partner is supposed to protect you from your pain body by being nice and never triggering it… oops.  Your partner is being asked By You to assist in bringing up what you decided you wanted to work on in this life… and out of a higher love they are going to do just that until you have gotten what you went there for.  Blame will only initiate energetic circumstances that will manifest a repeat episode.  Sorry, but you are the one who decided you wanted to do this work…

In any relationship you are working on your basic intimacy issues with the light and Source – that is, after all, what we are here for.  I call it the Deity Drama or Separation Drama.  We play it out in other arenas, like health or relationships, so that we may gain experience and understanding – through putting a part of the collective density inside, and then healing it as our personal portion of the divine plan.  First we get lost in it… and are now waking up and healing it… so it is not taken into the future of us all.

Everyone is in a process chosen before birth to release their baggage, issues, pain body, fear, density, resistance, dark shadow, childhood conditioning, stories… yada yada yada.

If you really want to know your purpose in life, look into your last fight or last breakup with your sweetheart.  You are in the middle of that purpose… drowning in it, perhaps, but in it.  In this text I hand you another rope, and as you may be highly skilled at pushing ropes away, there will be many more.  You are loved.

Everyone is in a process chosen before birth to release their baggage, issues, pain body, fear, density, resistance, dark shadow, childhood conditioning, stories… yada yada yada.  That ‘stuff’ cannot be taken into an era of easier manifestation because it would manifest easily.  Have you noticed that this is already happening?

Perhaps if you knew how a spiritual relationship worked – remember, the only life you can have – how life works would make more sense.  Here we go.

I have four rules for The Spiritual Relationship.  OK, principles.

  1. It is Never about them.

It is never about the other person.  Imagine that you asked them to play this role for you, so you could get access to what you came here to deal with on your journey, and out of higher love, and for their own purposes, they agreed.  You asked.  They loved.  If you don’t see it, go deeper.  And leave the blame at the basement door.  Park the judgment with it.

Another example… out of the consensus reality box:  if you are having a little dance with a bacteria, virus, or parasite, you asked it to play that role for you, and you are now in “a cooperative endeavor with another species of consciousness”, to quote Seth from the ’70’s.  Old stuff, ya?  So if you attack your cooperative partner, life will give you your second choice in partners… and louder… ya?

This works the other way, also.  If someone is blaming or finding fault with you… and their over-reaction to the situation is the biggest key… it has nothing to do with You.  And if you are arguing back or defending yourself, you are lost in the mirror.  Perhaps it won’t work to tell them, “It’s your pain body talking.”… but you can know it and refuse to escalate the drama.

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The Birthday, by Chagall (1915)
  1. It is not about what it’s about.

It wouldn’t trigger you so, if there was not something deeper.  That is what it’s about.  You went there to feel that.  If you don’t feel it, you can’t heal it.  That’s why you went there.  And will go again… and again… until it is all released.  Judging, controlling, blaming, or resisting will only prolong the process. That’s OK, take six more lifetimes if you like…

Managing and planning for every contingency in a business will have the same result… continually attempting to fix the messenger (problem) without using it for why you asked it there.  Messages not listened to only get louder.

It wouldn’t trigger you so, if there was not something deeper. That is what it’s about. You went there to feel that. If you don’t feel it, you can’t heal it. That’s why you went there. And will go again… and again… until it is all released. Judging, controlling, blaming, or resisting will only prolong the process.

So you won’t solve anything by talking about what it’s about because that’s not what it’s about.  It is a gift.  It ain’t broke, so ‘fixing’ it, especially through talking, is only going to dig the hole deeper and feed the pain body.  I know you’ve experienced that repeatedly…

Yes, there are ways to use higher energies to transmute the inner density.  Shortening drama/ pain cycles from weeks to minutes… accelerating things significantly.  I have a school for that.

  1. Nothing changes until you do.

Reality is feedback, a holographic projection from within.  What you see in that mirror is not going to change by your insistence.  That is looking in a mirror and demanding God lie to you… good luck.  Enjoy your visit on the in-your-face holodeck.

Three gold stars if you got that even the planet is not going to change for the better until you do, in the specific probability you experience as your own personal now.  So right here you have a short sweet text on how changing this planet is actually going to happen… or not… by nobodies choice but yours.  Bingo.

  1. Pain is resist-dance.

Dragging oneself kicking and screaming toward being happy… been there, done that, got the T-shirt.  If it hurts, you are fighting the process.  There is this part of you that understands you totally, knows just what you need, loves you immensely, and is totally committed to getting you home… call it Higher Self or whatever…  You are allowed to not cooperate; continued pain is how you know that’s what you’re doing.  Beginning pain follows not listening to the hints to let it go.

So what do you do when you and your partner are loving and growing with each other through either the leap-frog or bumper cars of mutual pain body triggering?  Well, that is exactly what you signed up for.  And are convinced is wrong.  Ah… conditioned judgment…

Dragging oneself kicking and screaming toward being happy… been there, done that, got the T-shirt. If it hurts, you are fighting the process.

So what to do?  Disengage from the drama.  Agree that each of you go where you personally need to go to look into what it is really about.  No, no… caught you going somewhere to tell stories.  Inside.  Drop the stories there, too.  Story after story and nothing changes… you know that… so enough.

Come back together when both of you can talk, and listen, without using the ‘you’ word.  “I feel this when I…”  Using the ‘you’ word means you haven’t gone deep enough.  But you will… one way or another… by manifesting the pain and drama outside, or feeling it during the journey inside.  Your choice.  For sure it will be some balance of both, and you are choosing the balance point.

Remember that everyone sees your issues before you do.  And so what do you do with what you see about the other, before it is “up” far enough that the other person sees it?  Share it in a time or way that the other cannot receive it?  Use it to wound, saving it for ammunition until you need it?  That’s you making the choice to let your pain body do the talking.  Are you done yet?

Inner density has to go.  The spiritual relationship is, for most, the number one go-to in this department.  An understanding partner in this journey can be spiritual rocket fuel.  That’s why your partner is already – right now – there… already loving you exactly as you have asked and really need… to change self.  That’s true love… only someone who really loved you would play those roles you asked of them.

If you are single, right now that partner you don’t have is loving you the way you most need, by not being there, and you will meet and recognize them when you have fulfilled your part of your present agreement together. You know… the agreement that says lets not play that out… one… more… time…  You will meet the probability of them that has done their half when you have done yours.  To get there you could meet others who would help you with the densities listed in your agreement… tho most call it pain instead of seeing it as the best they allowed of exactly what they were truly in need of…

It can be quite an art.  Accept.  Allow.  You don’t have a choice because you already made that choice before you were born.  Trust your process.

Others have decided to forgo a full-time relationship until they clean up a good part of that inner density.  For many this is certainly to their highest good and ease!

This lifetime is set up to be ‘more fun and more adventure than we have had in eons’.  Along the way there are going to be some symbolic manifestations as we let out the clutch in the new gear we are already in.  Have fun.  Let go of the fear.  Surf the wave or have your face ground into the sand under it… your choice.  Either way the wave will get you there!  We go as we allow.  Own it.

For me this not the place to write a book, offer more explanations, give examples, demonstrate principles.  I do a lot of that on an individual basis as a processing intuitive.  There i can play cupid introducing people to their highest probable partner, with whom they are already hanging, on the causal plane… where things are organized energetically before manifesting physically.  Injoy.

Thanks to A Course in Miracles for #2, Lazaris for #3, and Oneness for understanding.  Thanks for the many times my guides needed to repeat #1 to me… i required it.  I suggest repeating it to yourself, with emphasis on the ‘Never’.  As for #4, on the resist-dance bus, “good judgment comes from experience… experience comes from bad judgment”.
If you are interested in additional understanding of the energies behind the ways people often ‘fall in love’, head to YouTube for Gregg Braden’s video ‘The Seven Essene Mirrors’.  If you can handle the mullet and the hiking-up of the pants, he’s great.

And for how it is:

Matt Kahn – Soul Contracts, Twin Flames & Soul Mates Redefined :

Note:  Here is my very knowing friend’s version.  She writes:

“I started to write a bit on it…. inspired as to how to get the understanding clearer to someone who has not experienced processing… or understood about densities… or what to do with all the muck inside. Who knows what to do with anger, for example…. but to project it on others, or stuff it…. so anyway… here is what came up”.

The Spiritual Relationship

The very words can perhaps conjure up a vision of an inspired idealistic relationship of spiritual bliss, where both people enjoy harmonious flow together… and clear communication… truthfulness… trust… happiness… joy… reflecting the highest potentials for Love. The dream.

If such a relationship seems to present itself… we eventually discover that there is something below the surface that rises up and causes emotional upheavals that can be painful… confusing… fearful… angry… insecure… controlling… destructive… and even eventually split up the relationship, with both blaming the other.

So I want to talk of Spiritual Relationship in an entirely different way.

Getting real.

Actually, spiritual relationships are the only ones we CAN have. They all serve as reflections that we need to “Know Thyself”.

All of our relationships are mirror reflections of some part of us… and used as such can be keys which can unlock the secrets to getting free… thus, they are truly spiritual relationships.

 

Our dreams can only become remotely possible in reality, (on an abiding basis), once we *wake up… and we begin to see the cluttered, toxic, complex condition of our inner realm, the egoic network with whom we identify, that has become who we think we are (which consists of layers of tightly woven veils of well hidden lies/illusions… and not to be underestimated in its power over us)… and to learn how to release and clear it out. Heal the wounds, un-do the false, disintegrate the densities. Get free.

All of our relationships are mirror reflections of some part of us… and used as such can be keys which can unlock the secrets to getting free… thus, they are truly spiritual relationships.

A powerful spiritual relationship is mutually conscious, and deep enough to reflect both our highest potential… and our deepest fears and emotional pain. It’s very important purpose is to do all of that, whether we know it or not from its onset.

On deeper levels each person agrees to this encounter… even (and especially) the difficult parts. So the relationship is not failing when it appears to be immersed in a stuck repeating loop of painful dramas… but is being presented with exactly what each person needs to clear out of their own energetic field.

The all-important purifying burn.

From this context, two people can consciously co-operate to do this Work together… and so can even welcome the dark shadow work to come up, for the purpose, and with the support of the other, to process it out.

To do this, one of the first things both need to know is that… the stuff that comes to the surface:

* IT IS NOT ABOUT THEM. (the other person)
(especially when it most seems like it is…)

Our feelings may have been triggered by them… (that is their job, *in this context)… but the feelings and belief systems coming up are from our own source. If one person gets lost here… it is hugely beneficial if the other can hold space for them (i.e. not get tangled up in the drama, and stay conscious and focused), so that the triggered one can go down into this density, fear, belief, etc, for the purpose of dispersing and releasing it.

The higher purpose of any kind of relationship is to get at the truth, and if we don’t yet know what that means… then to uncover the false within us is a great way to start.

The Truth, gratefully, remains un-scathed, well beyond our antics.

This is self-inquiry and inner work that each person needs to be consciously engaged in apart from the other… and is then reflected in the other, as a mirror.

If we blame the other for our suffering, we miss the entire point… and will get lost when one insists on “talking about it” endlessly when none of it is even real outside of false projections that seem so real.

So to communicate clearly, we learn to disengage from the drama… and to remember what our objective… our intention is.

*IT ISN’T ABOUT WHAT IT IS ABOUT. (what appears to be the situation/story)

It is about removing all the veils, fears, beliefs, pain body densities, projections, etc… that is underlying that story.

It is important to keep a strong connection with the other person, in the mutual recognition of this. In doing so, when one person gets lost, the other can guide them back… help them into observation mode to see it, process it… not deny or stuff it… or attack with it.

This can get touchy… as both can be triggered… and so not being attached requires development.

What it is about is getting free of the whole mess… not sorting out a tangled web of dramas… but realizing whole package and its complex contents> are illusions.

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The Embrace (1917), by Egon Schiele

*NOTHING CHANGES UNTIL YOU DO.

You cannot affect abiding growth and change by trying to manipulate another person’s behavior, blaming them or anything outside of yourself for your tormenting issues. The mirror does not lie… it is designed to reflect exactly what is in front of it. God makes no mistakes here.

You can try to change the mirror image… (imagine trying to do this with a real mirror as you stand in front of it)… you can even change partners, or situations if this one gets too uncomfortable, or you don’t like the reflection staring back at you, or it isn’t giving you the happiness you think it should… but the inner source of the reflection is>>> still within you, and it will eventually attract another appropriate mirror, which will likely start as another well intended dream…. and eventually arrive at the same juncture. The work cannot be avoided if our intention is to Awaken…. to no longer be satisfied to be trapped in a web of lies.

To learn this is a wise and essential component to moving forward… and to allowing the transformational FLOW of this process.

*PAIN IS RESISTANCE.

Why do we suffer emotional pain and suffering, over and over in repeating cycles… and even design our lives to both create/attract the whole thing, and to try everything to avoid feeling it or owning it?

This is not so absurd to ego. Ego stays well ensconced as long as we engage in this behavior… that by its very design can never be satisfied or sorted out. Ego’s fuel is reactivity and it loves to stay hidden, as blame is placed on external sources.

There is a false sense of identity we have gained, and it is complex and based on deeply rooted belief systems pounded into us while growing up.

The mind can be used to make the false seem real.

The thing being disturbed IS the false thing, and were it not there, there would be nothing to be disturbed.

The false self carries a burden of its own ignorance… is the origin of our suffering.
Fear is its powerful ally and valuable multi-use tool.

There is a greater force at work to awaken and free us… which we have also chosen.

How we relate to that force determines how we either flow with it, or we resist it. The mind/ego ups the stakes of the upheaval and pain created as it rebels and fights against this essential unraveling of what was never true. However long it takes for us to be done with it, or however much grasping for control, suffering, kicking and screaming we engage in… is our choice, or series of choices.

We eventually, when sufficiently humbled by the futility of the exhausting resist-dance, learn the value of surrender.

It is important to ask one’s self… what do I want?

Is it is first and foremost to free one’s self… to Awaken?

Ego is a force to reckon with at every turn… but battling it only re enforces its seeming power over us… by making it an enemy, which it is not.

This is why resistance only further digs us in deeper, as it is designed to do, being based in fear.

As we free ourselves… our balance of energy changes… and we become clearer…  we can then allow spiritual Light to do our purifying Work for us, effortlessly.

Our spiritual path expands, and awakens… as we simply get out of its WAY.
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Then there is the:

Un-co-operative Spiritual Relationship… ah yes.

So, if you are in a relationship that is reactive, tumultuous, and there is no clear connection and plenty of mis-communication and finger pointing, and control games between the people involved… etc, etc… we may experience the opposite of the 4 principles previously discussed:

*It IS SO about them. (they said this or that mean thing, they cheated, they are abusive, they don’t respect me….…etc)

*It IS ABSOLUTELY about what it is about (something said or done by the other, creating a situation, a story, and that IS what it is about)

*It will change when I can change the behavior of the other, or change the situation.

*Pain and suffering is caused by them or the situation.

OK… then… Now what?

Do I need to be right, and the other wrong? Does something in me seek attention by being the “victim”…. to enjoy attracting a rescuer of sorts to save me? Perhaps the unfairness of life is to blame? Whatever….

Can a dis-functional relationship be straightened out, healed, become functional?

Where clearly some of this ‘who-did-what-when’ scenario may appear to be absolutely real on one level… it has no basis in truth on another… in fact, it reinforces the false… and its un-ending complexities are counterproductive to getting free.

The ego can make us believe lies… and unconsciously project them all over the place… we invite persons to be our mirrors… however beautiful or unpleasant  the reflections become. Then we point our finger at the mirror… as being the both the source of the problem/pain, as well as the source our happiness… of love. Neither of which is true.

Example… If we have a poor self image, we will manifest someone to tell us that in all the ways that agree with and trigger our own negative belief systems (albeit subconscious) about ourselves… and trigger up the corresponding pain reservoirs within us.  We may call the person abusive?? Would we rather be gifted with a beautiful tender trap of seductive lies to make us seem so perfect and lovable… before we ourselves believe it? And when the source of that pulls it away, what are we left with… rejection??

Or… if we have trust issues, we will find betrayal following us. We will project what trust means to us onto another… which may have little to do with them, and so we eventually feel betrayed when they do not live up to our projections.

In the same way, we can project our dreams and love onto them… believing that they give us happiness, security, love… etc. Our source of power is switched from within us to an external source. This will eventually fall apart… because it is not true.

So even the un-cooperative relationship is full of information and opportunities… and when we have finally had enough… we will seek to understand why:

*It is not about them.
*It is not what it is about.
*Nothing changes until you do.
*Pain is resistance.

Sometimes it does become time to move on… but it has to be for the right reasons. Moving out of a relationship that is not moving at all can be a reflection of one’s own true inner movement… and not an escape from facing the truth.
One learns about the flow…. and allows it.