A view on the topic by Angela Economakis
Relationships. They don’t last long any more where the lower vibrational proliferation of drama prevails.
The ‘honeymoon period’ of relationships is getting progressively shorter. To put it crudely: your shit comes up way faster than ever before. Have you noticed? So what to do?
Projection, denial of ownership, refusal to take responsibility for the co-creation or allowing of a situation will quickly end in ‘pain-body’ trigger, rampaging inner child/inner adolescent dominance, wounded adult overwhelm and seemingly justified rationale to perpetuate and escalate separation, duality and more drama.
The ‘honeymoon period’ of relationships is getting progressively shorter. To put it crudely: your shit comes up way faster than ever before. Have you noticed? So what to do?
‘The 4 principles of any ‘Spiritual Relationship’ are based on the simple tools we live by and work with in my groups, workshops and sessions. They apply to ANY relationship or encounter, be it intimate, friends, family, work colleagues or random encounters. If it can throw you off your centre, into negative ego emotions, that situation or person is your teacher in that moment for your next step in your spiritual maturity.
May they bring you as much self-awareness, liberation, deeper intimacy, tolerance, self-acceptance and love, as they continually bring me and those who work with them.
1. ‘It’s never about them’
The faster you can move out of blame and drama mode, the better.
– The other person who is triggering you/or who you are in a drama with, is playing a ‘role‘ FOR you.
– The faster you can move out of blame and drama mode, the better.
– Disengage, go inside, follow the triggered emotion to see what role they are playing for your benefit for spiritual growth and inner egoic healing (to clear a pattern up).
– The sooner this is done, the sooner the whole thing will dissolve.
– Leave judgment about it, about you and about the other person out. This just delays everything.
2. ‘It’s never about what it’s about’
Einstein said: ‘You can’t fix a problem with the same mind that created it.’
– E.g. your anger is not about the mess in the kitchen. It’s about what the mess in the kitchen represents underneath
– i.e. maybe it’s representing the joyful freedom your partner experienced during their creative expression whilst cooking. When was the last time you surrendered to your carefree nature in the same way, you may ask yourself?
– Trying to ‘fix’ something that is not the ‘real’ issue is a total waste of time, energy and losing the whole point entirely, as that’s not the problem anyway!
– You’ll also just keep inflating the drama, making the pain worse, and ‘feeding the pain body’.
– Go deep to find the gold. Disengage and go inside.
– Remember – Einstein said: ‘You can’t fix a problem with the same mind that created it.’
So stop the endless stubborn fighting to do so.
3. ‘Nothing changes until you do’
So you can keep playing out the same magnetized drama or you can go within
– You hold one end of a script in this ‘holographic’ explanation of reality.
– Everything you experience on the ‘outside’ is just a projection from the film-role running ‘inside’ – The sum total of your beliefs, patterns, conscious and unconscious drives.
– So you can keep playing out the same magnetized drama or you can go within, look at what ‘end of the script’ you’re holding and playing out (ad nauseam), feel it, own it, heal it, to then experience the very real and often immediate shifts in your outer world or ‘reality’.
4. ‘Pain is resistance’
If you don’t listen to the whispers, you’ll be forced to listen to t he screams
– ‘If it hurts, you’re fighting the process’.
– There is a higher part of you – let’s call it higher self, that is committed to ensuring you get exactly where you set out to get to in this life – call it ‘home’, call it fulfilling your chosen experience or mission in this life. – Our ego believes it knows what’s best for us – we try to control, manipulate and determine our path. The pain is the sign that we’re not listening to the signs to LET GO, allow, trust and surrender to a process that ‘knows’ better.
– Remember:‘if you don’t listen to the whispers, you’ll be forced to listen to t he screams’
……. in ALL domains – from the ’emotional pain body’ to the eventual manifestation of a physical dis-ease process.
The Summary
FEEL IT – to the bottom, to neutralize the electromagnetic charge on the pain body.
TAKE OWNERSHIP – if it exists, you have either created or allowed it in your external reality. No exceptions to that law.
HARNESS IT – there will be a REASON for your own spiritual growth for doing so.
DISENGAGE: from the one/the person, who has triggered this response (it’s never about them and it’s not what it’s about! Remember! And solving it on that level is NOT the solution – Einstein!)
GO INSIDE yourself: Meditate, do some inner inquiry work and take a little journey within and see what it’s really about, what is underneath the story. Then call in some higher dimensional energies – love, light, whatever you like to call it, to help you transmute the ‘density’ you’ve found and accessed.
TRUST: a rebalancing and a recalibration happens and you will begin to experience your reality and your relationships through different lenses entirely.
DON’T JUDGE IT: Judge none of it.. it is what it is.. you’re moving through your spiritual growth as you designed it at the highest level. Let it transform you, but don’t judge ‘the one’ who is learning and growing.
Remember: ‘NO TWO PEOPLE WILL EVER EXPERIENCE THE SAME SCENARIO IN THE SAME WAY’.
– Each will have their experience of it based on their filters, issues and emotional pain body charges.
– You are serving each other in a mutual growth process. Use the opportunity or you can guarantee, it will be repeated again, with another person, and usually louder with more pain in order to get your attention to achieve resolution. Victim consciousness begins to dissolve and crumble, and a liberation and re-empowerment through an emotional and spiritual maturity begins to evolve, unfold and anchor.
With love for your onward journey and Merry/Happy/Holiday Fest!
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